Everyone has a story about their siblings. Usually it revolves around a time when they were feeling a bit homicidal and trying to kill or maim you. Despite near death experiences, you know your sibling really has your back like no one else does, and that no matter how much they tortured you as a child, that you will be in each other’s lives forever. Growing up together has a way of bonding you to another person in that no one else can ever break.
You did stupid stuff together
One of you was the mastermind behind ideas such as “Let’s string up a flying fox over the swimming pool”, and “Let’s ride around the house on our skateboards – on our knees!”, which resulted in broken teeth and limbs. But you all survived, and these stories have gone down in family legend, getting dragged out and retold every Christmas lunch after a few glasses of wine. These stories will be passed down to your children when they’re older, and they’ll be in awe of how wild you and your siblings were.
You tortured each other
Is there a family out there with kids who didn’t torture each other? My brother, for example, once dragged me around the living room floor by my foot, because I sat on “his” lounge chair. Yes. Siblings are the people in our lives on whom we take our feelings out on (often bad ones like this), in a way that there is no way they’d treat anyone else. You see your sibling’s raw emotions; uncivilized and unfiltered. Sure it’s not fun to be on the receiving end of it, but it also means that you’ve seen a side of this person that no one in their entire lives is likely to ever see but you.
You know each other’s secrets
Sharing a house with someone means, like it or not, they know things about you that you probably prefer that they didn’t. Your moustache that you bleech. His embarrassing tween crush. Her night braces that made her look like a robot. You’re vulnerable with each other in a way that you will never be with another person.
You were awkward together
The tweens and teen years are awful. You and your siblings dealt with it together, and emerged as normal looking people on the other side. They’ve seen you at your dorkiest and still love you.
You were parented together
Having a sibling gives you an ally against your parents. It’s a lot harder for them to say no when there are two or more of you ganging up against them wanting to go out for ice cream. Your ally in childhood is also going to be your go-to person when you’re an adult. You can laugh over some of your parents’ “interesting” forms of parenting (“You let me ride a pony in a paddock with dogs running underfoot, and the neighbours on BMX bikes zooming past – really?!”) and share amazement that you’re still alive to tell the story.
You’ve always got each other
It’s awful to think about, but later in life, when your parents aren’t around anymore, your siblings are going to be the last links to the family you were born into. They’re going to be the keepers of your childhood memories, the ones who drop over just to do nothing together, the people who will love you to the end, no matter what. Fights are forgotten, all is forgiven, as family is always the most important thing.
This article first appeared on MommyNearest.com.
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I can’t imagine life without my siblings. I hope I raise my three to care about each other just as much. x
Even if they don’t when they are kids, I bet they do when they are older 🙂 Adult siblings are even better than kid siblings!
I love my sister and my brother. I miss them so much because I live in a different state with my husband and two sons. I hope my sons have an amazing bond seeing as they are so close in age.
I hope so too for your boys! Even if they aren’t close as kids, they’re sure to be as adults 🙂 I’m appreciative of my brother as an adult much more than when we were kids.
My sister and I had so much fun together when we were kids. I have so many happy memories. I also have memories of wanting to throttle her after she wore my favourite top and ruined it! Siblings are the best 🙂
Hahaha ohhh I love sibling stories!
My siblings (both in laws and my biological sister) are amongst the MOST important people in my life – I love them so much. There’s just something about siblings where you have each other’s back ALWAYS, not matter what.
It’s so true. Even if you fight growing up, they are there for you for life.
OMG yes! I have one older brother so I got the rough end of the stick a lot of the time but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I now get to see both my boys starting to be great little buddies, and it warms my heart so much.
Yes me too! I got tortured a lot 😉 That’s so great about your boys. I often feel a bit sad that Cheese isn’t going to have siblings, but I’m hopeful she will make close friends that will become like family.
I’ve got two sisters – one who’s 2 year’s younger and another who is 15 years younger. Yep – 15! So we had a strange family dynamic growing up – teenagers and a toddler. But it’s fab now, and I love to watch both my sisters be aunties to my kids 🙂
What a great post! It is so true! My youngest brother is 8 years younger than me but we still have a great relationship – he may be younger but he has always acted as though he was my big protective brother ready to take on the world for me. I miss him dearly.
Thank you! Lovely to hear about your relationship with your brother 🙂
I think i had that jumper! Thanks for sharing with us for The Sunday Brunch Magazine , Bel & Eliza xx